What Does It Mean If You Can't Say Anything Nice

The old saying finishes off with that you shouldn't say anything at all. The reason for this is that saying mean or unkind things can hurt other people and makes you look bad.

Sometimes, people will say the phrase instead of something mean. However, this is already saying that you have nothing nice to say and therefore your thoughts are still mean.

A better alternative is to keep your mouth shut. Or, you can search for something kind to say that is still true. For instance, if someone is talking about how mean a neighbor is, you can mention that the person is always well groomed.

You can also decide to change the subject if you do not want to participate in the meanness. You can do it casually, or just state outright that you would rather not say bad things about other people.

You will be the better person for not talking poorly about others. There is a time and a place where it may be necessary though. For example, if you are a mom managing the chores your children are working on, you may need to assess the work habits and skills. If the performance is sub-par, that must be noted. You can still select your words with care. Focus on the behavior without putting the child down.

If you have children, you can also teach them to use kind words. When we learn to look for the good in people, it makes us happier too. A positive outlook is shown to improve health and relationships with the people around.

If you have a habit of saying negative or judgmental things about others, you can begin to change that habit today. Put a rubber band on your wrist. Each time you catch yourself saying something negative about another, simply pop the band. Eventually, you will learn to control what you think and say.

You need to realize that it is better to speak kindly of others or keep your opinions to yourself. After all, we are all human and have flaws. It can be very hurtful to put someone down. Your actions may even encourage others to hurt the person. You do not want to be part of that negative energy. So, learn to keep your thoughts and words positive. You will have a good impact on the people around you.

Make it a goal to begin speaking with more kindness. Make it a goal to model to your children speaking what is supportive.

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I have become extremely aware of the words coming from my mouth lately, as well as the words stirring in my heart. Why we spend so much time and energy agreeing with things that steal, kill and destroy I'll never know.

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Is It Ever Okay to Give Up

Is It ever OK to give up?

What if you've been working towards your goal for a long time?

What if you are weary?

Is it OK to throw in the towel?

Months or years could have passed and it feels like you're getting no where.

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Dear Mother,

find some quiet time to ask yourself some questions.

Give yourself some space and time to think.

Do you just need to take a break? 
It's hard to go full force for an extended period of time. Would a short vacation from your goal give you breathing room, rest and space? Consider how you could take 2 or 3 weeks and scale back your efforts or temporarily quit.

What are the effects of quitting now?
Will it be a detriment to your health? Is someone depending on you? Consider how you would let yourself, your friends or family down.

Are you at a roadblock because you need to build some new skills or gain new knowledge? 
Sometimes you feel like you aren't making any progress because you've come to the end of your skill set. 

When you start something new, often you spend a lot of time learning about it, practicing it and discussing your new found knowledge with others. Is time to reach out for help? Take a new class or read a new book. This could bring back the excitement for your goal just like when you started out.

Does your goal still fit your environment? 
Situations change. Do you need to adapt instead of give up?

Can you modify your goal and find new enthusiasm? 
Adapt your goal in fun, interesting, new ways. Set up a small challenge for yourself and give yourself a reward when you reach it. It could be that you've waited too long to recognize all the hard work you've put in.

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