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Can't I Just Get A Nice Quiet Weekend?

I love a nice quiet weekend. One with no plans, no rushing, and nowhere to be. How about you?

Is that too much to ask?

I can easily make do with a two-day weekend, but a three or four day weekend is a special treat indeed if you can swing one.  The odds of this working out are few in a typical year, so I've found it's better to 'prosper where you're planted' and make due with what I'm given.

photo by ikeephouse

One of the best ways I find to ease into a two day weekend is to start with Friday night. Done correctly, it will feel as if you gained a third day.

Do you do any of these Friday Night hacks?

I have a few personal rules about these special Friday nights:

First of all, there will be no eating out and no running to the store. Once we're all home, we are home. The exception to this is the children's answer to the doorbell to go run around the neighborhood and play. This is entirely acceptable because fresh air, bikes and ballgames and the perfect antidote to rushing, screen-time, being over-scheduled. We might order a pizza to be delivered or we'll make up leftovers or grill if the weather is nice. Whatever it is, I want it to be simple and quick so I'm not hanging out in the kitchen all night.

Next, change clothes. Even if what I was wearing for the day is appropriate and not dirty, there is something about changing clothes into something clean and fresh. Most of the time I'm not changing into lounge-wear or pajamas unless it's a cold, snowy night. Then, I might choose to curl up and read for the evening. But most often, I'm still putting on clothing that I can work around the house and be comfortable.

Also, no TV. This is a tough one though. I find that we can usually get past the news hours with the TV off if I didn't turn it on in the first place. This is because supper will be more casual and we might not necessarily sit together at the table like a normal evening. However, as much as possible, I try to be the guardian of the TV and keep it off or turn it off as soon as it appears the attention has strayed.

This one thing is great for relaxation and peace because you are not filling your mind with bad news.

photo by ikeephouse

One thing I have noticed about quiet weekends is that they don't seem to be very satisfying to most other people. It is definitely a conversation killer to the normal chit-chat question of 'What are your plans for the weekend?'

When you state that you have no plans and you are just staying home...it's often just crickets and blank stares in return.

I wonder about that. Why do people react that way? Is it because they prefer their badge of being busy? Is busy the highest honor you can bestow on your family? Most small talk, at least what I get wrapped up in, is always about all the activities and the lack of time a family has.

And if a family doesn't prefer to be busy, is it that they don't know how to stay home because they have been trained to go and go and go?

photo by ikeephouse

A quiet weekend isn't a boring weekend. In fact, it can be quite the opposite. Allowing you and your family to have days unplanned brings margin to your life. It brings opportunity for creativity, laughter, bonding. It brings opportunity to tackle things that have been left undone around your home.




What To Do When You Can't Travel For Thanksgiving

Can't or won't be traveling for Thanksgiving this year?

We haven't traveled for years. Most of our family lives in many different states. Other branches of our families aren't close anymore after older relatives have passed away. As a result, there is no need for us to hold large Thanksgiving meal or travel to one either.

I know other people that can't travel because of work schedules or can't because of transportation issues. Others don't want to travel by choice because of new babies or lots of little children in the home.

Don't feel bad that you won't be traveling and don't let any of your family pressure you.

First, if you do feel like celebrating you should see if you can get people to come and visit you.

You can ask family and friends in your area if they have anything,and if not, you can see if they want to come to your home with you. If not, then you're going to probably want to reach out to people that don't live around you to see if they can travel to where you are. You can easily get into touch with people via social media sites if you don't have their numbers. It's easy to hunt down just about anyone these days!

Try to set it up to where you'll still have a nice Thanksgiving for your immediate family if you can't get anyone to come by. You should try your best to get the food you can afford.

If you are having some trouble with money, then you may want to speak with a food pantry to see if they have anything that they can help you get. Generally, there are places that give out things like a free turkey. You just have to make sure you sign up for what you need beforehand so you can get the items since a lot of people will be doing the same thing.

Don't stress out too much about not being able to travel for your Thanksgiving. You will be able to travel again when you can afford to, or when you can get the time off of work.

Whatever the situation is for you not being able to travel, it will work itself out. There are ebbs and flows in life. If it is really important to you, make sure that you make it a goal to travel in the next year or so. People will understand because times can be tough for anyone at any time if they don't have enough work or just not enough money.

You may worry that your children are being deprived of a 'large family get together' or that they will miss out on 'getting to know their extended cousins.' Honesty, they won't notice at all. In fact, it may be more upsetting for them to have to socialize with people they do not know very well.

You may worry that your older children will think that they are lacking by not having an expensive Thanksgiving meal. The truth is they will pick up on whatever your attitude is. If you have happy about a quick meal, an easy cleanup, and then some exercise and watching football...they will be happy about that too.

As a mom, I know that I want to do the best I can do for my kids. Sometimes, the best thing is to understand that being content is the best thing.

Here are some more great thoughts about Thanksgiving at home.

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YOURS TRULY: Our Small Thanksgiving
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Thanks for stopping by,
Suzanne

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